From Kathleen Smith:

I’ve been thinking about what it means to stay responsibly connected to a challenge or a group. Without becoming “irresponsibly overinvolved” (a phrase Dr. Bowen used) with others.

Responsible connection could look like: - Staying in contact even when you’re frustrated with people. - Not picking up tasks simply because no one else is taking them. - Paying attention to the patterns in system, rather than fixating on people’s personalities or individual efforts. - Managing your own reactivity in a responsible way. - Working on one-to-one relationships with people. - Thoughtfully defining how you’d like to be responsible for self and to the group.

- Treating others as individuals who have their own thinking about how to contribute.

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