On trauma...and weakening over time leading to a BOOM.
“When a tall building is demolished, the time between detonation and collapse can be measured in seconds, but that’s just the part you see. What you may not know is that the destruction began by breaking walls and beams to weaken the building. Then a series of small explosives were strategically placed inside. When they are detonated in succession, the building implodes—it collapses in on itself. The damage is largely contained to just that building, but if you are standing too close when that last internal explosion detonates, you will get hurt.
People implode, too. We’re all vulnerable to it. Childhood trauma may break us in ways that leave our hearts fragile and weaken the boundaries that support our emotional well-being. And then, the little internal explosions begin. Those explosions may happen in quick succession or be spread across decades of your life. A romantic failure. Boom. The death of a loved one. Boom. A financial crisis. Boom. Another disappointment. Boom. Another loss. Boom. Boom. Boom. Each time, we hold it in. We repress the pain to contain the damage, but how many of us are just a couple of booms away from collapse?”